GETTING RID OF THE TOXIC IN YOUR LIFE

Some of you may have thought by this title that I was talking about the toxins in our body, LOL. Of course we want to get rid of those too but I'm talking about toxic people. It's a very difficult subject for some of us to broach. You all know me, you know I try to be uplifting and encouraging. We don't have to be perfect to be good people. However, no matter how much we all try to be nice people and how I know in my heart nobody that's a blogger is a Bee-atch, we all currently have or have had toxins in our life. It is vital to protect yourself against Toxic People!!

My mantra for the new year is Choosing Happiness. If that means removing toxins in my happiness journey, so be it. Good people are what great lives are made of and those are the kind of people I want to surround myself with.

If someone is causing damage to your life, then they are toxic and should be dealt with accordingly. We should love everyone but we certainly don't have to like them if they are causing us distress. People who suck the life out of you with negative attitudes, constant complaining, lies, gossip, selfishness, rude behavior and mean spiritedness are damaging you in a way that can cause your health to slip, your mind to race, cause you to second guess yourself and become anxious or depressed.


This past year was rough in spots. It makes me so sad that ill-willed human beings like this even exist. Some people close to me and myself were unfortunately in the company of a toxin. I believe in second chances, even 3rd ones in some instances, but after that, I'm done. Playing the victim gets real old after months and months. The people this toxic person was affecting were deeply frustrated. Our health suffered, our sleep schedules suffered and our minds, bodies and psyches were taxed to the fullest.

This time of year especially, many of us don't hesitate to cut toxins from our diet, nor do we think twice about removing toxic substances from areas where your children and pets play or our homes, so why is it that we are so hesitant to remove toxic people from our lives? The most obvious reason is that most of us like to avoid conflict and don’t want to hurt another human being’s feelings.

For some people, the toxic might be those closest to us so it's not always something you can get rid of. If you've been bending over backwards to make this relationship work, stop. Just STOP!! However if it's something that can be kissed good riddance from your life, do it now! Even those you can't, can be distanced.

Ways to rid the poison of a toxic person from your life or at least distance yourself from them.

Set boundaries and never ever apologize for them.
If people don’t respect your boundaries, they aren’t respecting you. Make a list of your own personal boundaries and don't be afraid to call that person out in them if they cross those boundaries. 

Keep in mind that many toxic people will not leave easily.
Sometimes the toxic don't just go away, they become irrational, angry, or act like they are the victims. Don’t beat around the bush or defend yourself; tell toxic people the truth and be consistent and firm in your decision.

Recognize the signs of person and don't assume they're just annoying.
You have to learn to recognize the signs that a person is toxic, or it won’t be long before the seeds of toxicity make it more difficult to cut the ties. You must learn to protect yourself from toxic people in the same way you protect yourself from getting sick by washing your hands and avoiding contact with infected people. If a person makes you feel uncomfortable, they're probably toxic.

Delete them on social media. Block them on your phone.
Yep, no need for Debbie Downers on things that should make you happy, make you laugh, lift you up. I once had to block someone on Pinterest of all things. This includes toxic trolls stalking your blog or your media.

It really is OK to say I never want to see you again or simply walk away.
Plain & Simple. In your mind, you'll probably be saying; "Dont let the door hit ya!" What a relief! 

Honestly, I've been lucky; the few toxic people I've had in my life, I've been able to walk away from and I've never ONCE regretted that.

The truth is that we need people, but we don’t need every relationship. Surround yourself with positive people who bring you up, rather than drag you down. You don’t have to sacrifice your sanity because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. You can be a good person without bending to the will of those who damage you with their own selfishness. 

You deserve to be happy. Choose happiness!
And if you're feeling down........

This is the kind of friend and family member I choose to be.

Have you ever had to deal with a toxic person? What did you do?

xoxo